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Domestic Abuse

What is domestic abuse?

Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality.

This can include, but is not limited to, the following types of abuse:

  • Psychological: such as preventing contact with family/friends, threats
  • Physical: such as kicking, punching, biting, slapping, restraining, throwing things, burning
  • Sexual: such as rape, being forced to participate in sexual acts, being forced to watch pornography
  • Financial: such as depriving of money, selling possessions, controlling expenditure, loaning money
  • Emotional: such as giving you the silent treatment, name calling/insults, mood swings, criticism, playing on your fears

If you’re worried about violence or abuse from your partner, ex-partner or a member of your family, you can get help and advice. If you’re in immediate danger, you should always phone the police on 999. You can also contact Haringey Police on their non-emergency number: 101.

Get help now

You can contact Homes for Haringey’s domestic abuse specialist service, Hearthstone. The service is available to women and men over 16 years of age.

You can contact the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247 if you are a woman experiencing domestic abuse. You can talk confidentially to someone about your situation and to find out what your options are.

If you are a man experiencing domestic abuse you can contact the Men's Advice Line on 0808 801 0327.

If you are in a same-sex relationship you can call the National LGBT Domestic Violence Helpline on 0800 999 5428.

Solace Women’s aid

Solace run a range of services in Haringey, including a phone line for immediate advice for women affected by Domestic Violence and Abuse to access counselling and floating support.

Solace also run the North London Rape Crisis Service, which is for women and girls over the age of 14 who have experienced any form of sexual violence at any time in their lives.

  • Contact: 0808 801 0305; Hours: Monday 10am-2pm, Tuesday 10am-1pm and 6-8pm, Wednesday and Thursday 1-5pm, Friday 10-2pm
  • Email:

Nia is an independent domestic violence advocacy service that offers advice and support for women

  • Contact: 0300 012 0213 (Monday to Friday 10am-5.30pm)

Call the Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90 if you feel in despair and want someone to listen to you and provide emotional support.

Page Last Updated:

21 January 2021